Can you put up with creeping abuse, or do you recognize it and end it quickly?

For example, I cancelled all future appointments with my hair dresser today, because he did 3 terrible things during our last appointment, because he thought I gave him a cold the month before. I did not. My hair was pulled and combed so roughly that one of the assistants complained. Also, he "ran out of" the chemical in the dye that prevents it from being painful. It was not the first time there were problems with that chemical, so I realized that there is a pattern of abuse with this guy and he has to go. I didn't complain at the time, because his behavior was horrifying but I wasn't keen on costing him his job.





Do you have a similar experience?

Can you put up with creeping abuse, or do you recognize it and end it quickly?
Hi Zelda~In the situation you describe, I wouldn't tolerate it the very first time. I suspect you paid him, didn't you? I would not have. If complaining could cost him his job, it's like the old saying: "It all started when she hit me back." I assume he doesn't own the place, so it's not too late to report it to his manager or whatever. I wouldn't put it off too long. I noticed you said you "..realized that there is a pattern of abuse with this guy." I wonder what made you think it was because he believed you gave him a cold, then? If this is "creeping abuse" (cute way to put it!) I suggest you do two things. Never, ever go there again. Make a complaint, but I don't think it would be wise to mention the "cold" thing. For one, it rather contradicts the "pattern," %26amp; also it's introducing something personal, when the fact is he's done, %26amp; did a bad job. You'll seem more credible to whomever you talk with, if you focus on his neglect %26amp; incompetence. Consider the response, if you make this even the slightest "personal" issue? I've seen some small claims cases where the woman's hair had been damaged, but two factors made the judge's eyebrows go up: The woman paid %26amp; didn't say a word at the time, %26amp;/or she implied there was a personal issue. I'm not saying you're going to small claims, but the principle is the same, isn't it? Keep your FOCUS. Friends, %26amp; people you love are entitled to a second chance, but not a professional who is supposed to be doing you a professional service! (It's nice to be nice, but not "too" nice!)
Reply:Good for you! Seems he's trying to cover his you know what %26amp; he's not worth your time at all. Report It

Reply:UUHHMMM..don't go there again, damn, surely there are more hairdressers in town, stay away from the drama queen.
Reply:I did have an experience with a male hairdresser once. I had long hair and my hair is very thick...and there was a knot of hair, not visible to the naked eye, underneath the rest of my hair. I asked for a short hairdo and he told me that he had to COMB the knot out first. All he had to do was cut it out from beneath the rest of my hair, and then cut the rest of my hair into a short hairdo. So as he tugged and pulled with his comb for about 40 minutes...I ended up with a headache [literally] and a stomach ache. I never returned, and if a I got another knot in my hair, I would cut it out myself. Sometimes, I have even cut my own hair and others think that it looks professional...I learned this from my mother because she used to cut her own hair in front of the bathroom mirror. If I don't feel like doing it myself, I go to another


hairdresser.
Reply:First things first...is there a higher source you can go to, say, a manager or the salon or something like that? IMMEDIATELY, and I mean IMMEDIATELY (this is the most important step) go to them, explain the WHOLE thing, including the fact that you think it was payback for giving him the cold, to the manager or whoever and highly recommend that he be either talked to or fired. Also, ask them to keep you anonymous.





Then, stop going to that salon, disappear completely and never go back. I don't care how good he is on a regular basis, STOP. Don't go back ever again. If you get calls, have a relative answer them and tell the caller you don't live there anymore. Anything.





Just stay away. You wouldn't want this to turn ugly.





Good luck!
Reply:Stay away from him. If he got that viscious over a cold I would hate to know what he would do over something serious. If he is great on a regular basis still don't go, find someone else! Also, report him like the girl said above and stay anonymous. Good luck and I liked everyone elses advice above me too.
Reply:Yes I always end negative or nasty behavior even when its with friends, family, co-workers, boyfriends, neighbors, hairdressers, loved ones etc...........you need to stop the behavior right in their traps and it could be in any situation in life no one has the right to abuse another its wrong and what goes around does come around....

addis