My dad is really creeping me out..?

I've felt this way for like two years now..every since I started..ahem, "growing up," but it wasn't very bad.


But my dad lost his job, and since then he's gotten really really creepy.





When he did have a job he was clean and fine and whatever, but now he smells and doesn't shave hardly ever, he smokes a lot, he watches porn CONSTANTLY. his computer is right out in the living room, and i've caught him watching it at 7 am before he takes me to school, when I come home he's watching it, and all evening. its f-ing sick..and he does a TERRIBLE job hiding it because i can see the screen every time i walk out of my room!! every single day I catch him watching it.


anyway


but like..he's really creeping me out lately. idk..just like every time I see him I get a weird vibe and just don't want to be there. Just being around him makes me want to put on more clothes. and I don't like him looking at me at all.


This is NOT normal..I know, because i've never been so creeped out by him.





What do I do?

My dad is really creeping me out..?
Looking at porn when your daughter can see it *is* inappropriate ... I'd say, just be honest with him, and ask him to be more private about it. That should embarrass him enough to keep it private. If you have a mom or step-mom or some other guardian living with you, I'd mention it to them; they may hold more sway over him. If there's a school counselor you trust, maybe you could bring it up with them.





About his hygiene ... maybe you could mention it in a positive way, such as encourage him when he gets done up nicely.


He might be depressed, as a consequence of being out of work; maybe that's what makes him care so little about what he looks like; the porn might partially just be something to get his mind off things. Another adult is in a much position to say things to him about this.





If he's looking at it that much, it might be a compulsive, addictive thing; he may need help.
Reply:you really really really really need to tell your mom. this is not normal behavior. very inappropriate.
Reply:you need to talk to someone you trust and tell them all the things that you are feeling and seeing he is your father and shouldn't be putting you in this situation he is in a position of trust as your parent and obviously you don't trust him anymore you might have to get a lock for your bedroom door as a deterrent to him walking in on you
Reply:you have to tell to someone!!
Reply:It does sound creepy, but when men are lonely that is usually what they do.





Anyway, maybe you can encourage him to find a girlfriend, at a bar or wherever else. If he is not shy he can do it.





Online adult websites are hugely popular. The people that don't seem to frequent them are just better at hiding it.





(Since the scenarios they portray on those sites are extreme, sometimes they can make a person do crazy stuff. It's not normal, but for some reason the government won't censor it at all. Maybe encourage your dad to go out more.)
Reply:i am so sorry you are going thru this. it is creeping me out just reading this.I think your reaction to what your dad is doing is normal.....but what your dad is doing does not seem normal do you think you can bring it up to your mom, she should be your advocate, if she totally blows you off i would go to a school counselor and ask for advice...esp since they are trained to help kids with those sort of things. i hope you are safe if you need to talk more privately you can e-mail me at aef067@yahoo.com
Reply:You should probably talk to him or your mum about this. If you need to change locked your door and ensure you are fully dress. Hope these help.
Reply:I hope you never have to go to the site I listed, but it may give you answers if the creepiness gets beyond just feeling weird. Please talk to your mom and have her talk to your dad and see where that leads (what his reaction is). if it is not resolved and you fear for your safety, arrange something with your mom to where you can be at a relative's house or some safe place when she is not at home. Only if you feel comfortable saying that you are bothered by his actions to him, do so, but when your mom is in the house.





I wouldn't like it either if my dad had done that when I was still in school and living in the house and I would be feeling the same way. And he was way out of line to come in your room like that. If he does it again, tell him to leave immediately. It is your body and you have every right to stand up for yourself if you feel threatened. That was way out of line! And do not ignore your feelings..that vibe is your truth--don't let it get silenced by the feeling of being polite at the sake of your safety.





If it gets worse and your mom is not willing to help or is too scared to, please find someone who will listen, and tell her that you are going to talk to someone so she isn't blindsided by it--you will have the knowledge that you tried everything you could to get help from within the family. You have the right to feel safe in your home. My best to you and I hope you find peace in this storm. Take care.
Reply:Trust you instincts! Many woman say they wish they would have trusted their instincts! Make sure you are NEVER alone with him, and tell someone! Your mother, a counsler, whoever, as long as you do it soon.
Reply:if u don't like living with ur dad then why don't u tell ur abt him or u could live ur mom......y don't u try talking to him if he is a nice person he would listen to u....


best of luck......for ur life.
Reply:tell someone who cares about you what's going on. your mom, aunt, grandma, maybe? or get a hotline number
Reply:Contact Chris Hansen and Dateline NBC immediately.

larry